Question for My Readers: Conversion

I am working on a project about the experience of conversion to Judaism, and there’s a question I’d like to ask of my readers who converted to Judaism. If you choose to participate, please answer via the Comments on this post.

Please only answer this if you became a Jew after your birth, and you have completed that process – you are officially Jewish.

At what point in the process of conversion or after did you feel unequivocably Jewish?  Was it at some point in the year of living Jewishly, or during your study, or after brit milah, or after the beit din, or after the mikveh, or at some event later? Be as specific as you can – I’m looking for a particular moment at which you were clear that you were definitely Jewish and not anything else.

There are no wrong answers to this question, and I ask readers not to comment on the answers anyone leaves here. I promise to delete any comments upon comments for this one.

I also certainly understand if you prefer not to answer.

Thank you to all who participate!

An Apology to My Readers

Image: Me at the computer with my assistant, Gabi the poodle. Photo by Linda Burnett.

I thought polls would be an interesting addition to the blog.

I thought I’d figured out how to do them.

I thought I had written a pretty good poll.

And now I know I have a lot to learn about poll making and

I am going to keep working on using polls, but this week’s attempt was a not-ready-for-the-Internet production.

I’m really sorry I made a mess.

I will leave it up because some of the comments are really quite interesting, but due to the problems with the poll, don’t try to draw any conclusions from the “results.”

Now, back to the keyboard to figure this thing out!

Thank you for your patience and readership.


Caution: Blogger at Work

You may notice over the next few days that I’m playing with the website. It came to my attention that it was running very slowly, especially on smartphones and other small screens.

After a little study on what makes WordPress sites do that, I’m trying out some new “themes” that I hope will run much better. If you have feedback about the look of the blog or the speed at which it loads, I’m all ears. Please understand, though, that since this is a DIY operation, I may or may not be able to implement your ideas!

As a certain Star Trek character* once said, “Dammit, Jim, I’m a doctor, not a bricklayer!” I’m a rabbi, not a website designer, so my skills are limited. Thanks very much for your patience as I tinker.

*Dr. Leonard McCoy, in “Devil in the Dark” (March 1967)

2017 Summary

Image: Stick figure of a girl pulling a wagon labeled “2017” loaded with red hearts. (danielam/pixabay)

Cheshboniut is Hebrew for “accounting,” and the turning of the Gregorian calendar is a great time for a little accounting. The blog went up in readership this year, from 226,465 separate views to 290,590 views. 4,068 people follow the blog via WordPress subscription or email. In the slowest month (December) people accessed the blog over 600 times a day. In the busiest month (September) there were twice as many “hits”: 1,200 a day.

What were all these folks reading?

The ten articles accessed most often in 2017:

The top ten new articles in 2017:

Some questions for regular readers:

  • Do you have a favorite post from this year?
  • Are there topics you’d like to see more often or in more depth?
  • Do you ever use the “Search” box at the right to find topics?

Thank you for a great year!



I Was Curious: Here’s Who’s Reading

Image: Woman reading from her computer screen with cup in hand. (Shutterstock photo ID: 377318731. All rights reserved.)

Wow! I am so grateful for all the responses I received to the post I’m Curious: Who is Reading? To date, there have been 51 respondents, far more than I dared to hope when I posted the survey.

I’ve learned a lot, and it will definitely help me in keeping this blog fresh and interesting for you. Here is the raw data:

  1. How do you identify?
    1. 29 identified as “Jewish”
    2. 14 identified as “Not Jewish”
    3. 1 identified as “both”
    4. 3 identified as having “Jewish heritage,” 1 as having discovered Crypto-Jews in the family tree.
    5. A number of you converted to Judaism and mentioned it.
  2. How much Jewish education have you had?
    1. 10 said “None.”
    2. None said, “Some, but don’t remember much.”
    3. 11 went to Religious School.
    4. 2 went to a Jewish Day School or something like it.
    5. 20 reported doing most of their learning as adults.
    6. 2 have degrees in Jewish studies.
    7. And two of you are Jewish professionals.
  3. Movements, etc.:
    1. 17 Reform
    2. 1 Renewal
    3. 3 Modern Orthodox or similar
    4. 2 Reconstructionists
    5. 5 Conservative
    6. 2 “Just Jewish” or similar
    7. 7 “Just Curious”
    8. 4 identified as Episcopalians
    9. 1 identified as Mormon
    10. 5 identified as Multi- or Post-denominational

If the numbers don’t seem to add up quite right, it’s because some readers reported falling into more than one category. That’s fine with me.

I was aware that this blog had two groups of clients. The first, for whom I originally designed it, are people seeking very simple, accessible information about Jewish topics. Most of those people access the blog via search engines, at the rate of about 600 “hits” a day. I’m glad to serve them with answers about what to wear to Jewish funerals, and Bar/Bat Mitzvah etiquette.

Regular readers, those of you who replied to the survey, were quite a surprise. Many of you have made a serious project of studying Judaism as adults. You are sophisticated learners and bring your own insights to the material. However, you aren’t a homogenous group – there’s a nice leavening of beginners, too.

My takeaway from this is that I should not be shy about offering studies on short Jewish texts and other more challenging material. That’s good, because I have covered as many beginner topics as I can think of (which is why I love questions so much – I can remember being a beginner, but I’ve forgotten some things, too.)

Thank you all for participating in the survey! You add to my learning, and for that I am very grateful!

I’m Curious: Who is reading?

Image: A picture of Jojo the poodle, to reward regular readers who read this post and consider answering the questions.

Instead of a blog post, I’m going to ask some questions, and I would be most grateful to those who answer in the comments. There are no wrong answers, just a desire on my part to learn more about my regular readers.

  1. Do you identify as:
  • Jewish
  • Not Jewish
  • Partly Jewish


2. How much Jewish education have you had?

  • None at all.
  • Some, but I don’t remember anything from it.
  • Several years of religious school
  • Several years of Jewish day school / cheder / yeshiva
  • I have several years of synagogue-based study as an adult.
  • I have a degree in Jewish Studies.
  • I am a professional Jew (rabbi, chazzan, educator, administrator, other)

3. Which of these categories best matches your Jewish identity?

  • Reform
  • Renewal
  • Orthodox
  • Reconstructionist
  • Conservative
  • Just Jewish
  • Just Curious

Thank you!

I Think I’ve Got It.

Image: Swiss Army Knife. Public Domain.

As I mentioned in an earlier post, I felt like changing the look of my blog. What I finally decided was that I didn’t like all the blinkety-shminkety from the ads, I didn’t like the green background, and that this new theme would be better.

I DID listen to your comments, and I think I have something that will please the majority of commenters. At any rate, I like it. I hope you will speak up if you don’t like something, or if you do – I am a tinkerer by nature, so it’s never completely done.

And now for a little ad of my own:

Yesterday I posted about Steps to Success, a truly wonderful project. I am so enthused over these women that I will give a one-hour Skype study session to anyone who gives them $35 using this link. Your choice of text, OR if you want to spend it telling me all about how horrible Religious School was at temple when you were a kid, I will listen with care and respect.