Sometimes we will be the mourners, and someday we’ll be in that casket at center stage, but for most of our Jewish lives, we’re in the “mourner support” role. And face it, that’s where the mitzvahs are.
The three weeks preceding Tisha B’Av are traditionally a time of mourning in the Jewish world.
Minhag hamakom, “the custom of the place,” is a powerful force in both Jewish law and Jewish good manners.
Know that others have walked this road, so you are not alone.
Grief will not be denied. Fail to attend to it, and it will come get us later, at an even less convenient time.
How can a Jew mourn properly when his family is not Jewish?
How are Jewish and Christian funerals different?