However, considering that the people during the Second Temple period were engaged in Torah study, observance of mitzvot, and acts of kindness, why was the Second Temple destroyed? It was destroyed due to the fact that there was baseless hatred during that period. This comes to teach you that the sin of baseless hatred is equivalent to the three transgressions: Idol worship, forbidden sexual relations and bloodshed. – Yoma 9b
The ancient rabbis tell us that the Second Temple was destroyed because of sinat chinam, baseless hatred. (Yoma 9b) We practice sinat chinom when we hate another person or group of persons without having a good reason.
The trouble is that people who are filled with hatred are always sure they have a very good reason. In fact, they are sure that what they feel is not really hatred – it’s just a reasonable dislike.
Let me rephrase that: When we are filled with hatred, we are sure we have a very good reason. We are sure that what we feel isn’t hatred – just a reasonable dislike.
I have heard otherwise good people express something that sure sounded like hatred for the following groups of people:
- Trump voters
- Fat people
- People who believe in climate change
- People who don’t believe in climate change
… and the beat goes on. I imagine you’ve heard it too.
So the place to start in weeding out sinat chinam from my own heart might be:
For whom do I have a perfectly reasonable dislike?
And then I can ask myself: why do I extend that dislike to an entire group of people?
And maybe: Is there any group I don’t dislike but I don’t particularly care about either? What’s going on with that?
These are hard questions.
Av is a hard month.