Mysteries of Judaism

English: MY MOTHER LIGHTING SHABBAT CANDLES IN...

Sometimes it may feel as if Judaism is full of secret codes and handshakes, and for a newcomer, it can be overwhelming. You may have seen someone gesture over Shabbat candles, or do a little bobbing thing during prayer, or hold a tallit [prayer shawl] in an unusual way, and wondered, “Why are they doing that?”

Judaism is full of small rituals, and sometimes those little rituals can make newcomers to the community feel like outsiders. If you are the one who doesn’t know why the person you are talking with suddenly breaks out with “Pooh, pooh, pooh!” it can be alienating.

The most important thing to know about most of these is that like the many mysterious rituals of the Passover table, a lot of these rituals exist to encourage questions and discussion. They get started somehow (some we know, some we don’t) and then various explanations attach to them, and we’re off and running with a tradition. Some of these are quite lovely, for instance:

If you watch me during the section of the daily service called the Shema and its Blessings, you will notice that during a certain prayer, I gather up the corners of my tallit [prayer shawl], wrap the fringes around the fingers of my left hand, and then use that hand to cover my eyes as I say “Shema Yisrael!  Adonai Eloheinu, Adonai echad!” [Hear, O Israel! Adonai is our God, Adonai is One!]

I was taught to do that by Rabbi Ben Hollander, z”l, when I was a first year student in rabbinical school, in Jerusalem. He taught me that there are words in the prayer which refer to the gathering in of all the scattered Jews of the world, so I should gather up my fringes and hold them during the Shema, as if gathering up the Jews myself. As for covering my eyes, I do that because there is a story in the Talmud (Berakhot 13b) where Rabbi Judah the Prince covers his eyes to concentrate while he says the Shema prayer. Since then, we cover our eyes at that point – either to concentrate, or to emulate a great rabbinic soul.

Are any of these things necessary in order to be a good Jew? No.

However, when you are curious about something you see someone do, ask!  If you like the practice, you may want to adopt it yourself. Asking marks you as someone who is eager to learn, and learning is a mitzvah.  Rabbi Hillel said in Pirkei Avot, “The shy will not learn.” So ASK!

If there’s a ritual you’ve seen and wanted to ask about, feel free to ask here! If I don’t know, I will have a good time looking it up or … asking someone!

P.S. – There may be things you wonder about in this article. I have tried to link each of them to a good explanation. Just click on the link to learn. If you still have questions, ask!

3 Responses to Mysteries of Judaism

  1. ethnicmuse says:

    When you speak of a newcomer, do you mean a new convert or someone just visiting? If it is a new convert, is there not a program to break them into the rituals?

    • rabbiadar says:

      Thanks for reading, ethnicmuse! When I say “newcomer” I mean either someone who is visiting for the first time, or someone who may be considering conversion. There are programs and classes such as you describe (I teach one!) but often people get very discouraged at the beginning, for the reasons I cite in the post. They feel awkward, there are so MANY things to learn, etc. My post is an effort to ease some of that difficulty.

      Actually, there are many born Jews who are intimidated by some of these mysterious things, because they didn’t get a Jewish education as kids, or because they education they got didn’t encourage them to ask many questions. So when they see something unfamiliar, they feel ignorant or intimidated. It’s not just a newcomer thing.

      I appreciate your reading and your posts! Thank you for asking!

  2. ethnicmuse says:

    Thanks for your enlightening posts and funny too “Pooh, pooh, pooh!”

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